The 3 C’s
Consistency, Commitment and Courage
I have been told that I have ADD/ADHD and although I don’t have a diagnosis I do have certain tendencies that I notice that typically are difficult for me to be consistent and committed to myself.
I want to first off saying that ADD/ADHD is a label and I can explain in a mind operating sense what is exactly happening. When you do deep spiritual work and have an understanding of your mind, you see what triggers are and what energies that you have that cause the ungrounded way ADD/ADHD show up in your mind, body and in your life. This takes work to get through. When you work on a spiritual level, always coming from a spiritual perspective, you can heal yourself and your relationship with your mind, body and soul.
From my experience, sometimes I have difficulty being consistent and committed to things. If I look at my spiritual practice I am definitely committed. When I look at my yoga practice, this needs work. When I go into the reasoning of why I resist, it is a few different factors, most of which is fear based. What I need to do is work up a new foundation for one that was previously set in fear. As we build our foundations (root chakra), we can become more and more steady, centered and able to face our challenges with more courage and determination.
This morning I consciously had to set up a contract with myself and my body to physically do yoga even though there is bodily discomfort, that I will open more deeply to my spiritual essence and that after the practice I may experience shifts and changes. This is deep work, and not stepping into my yoga is a fearful way to avoid going deeper into embodying my true authenticity. There is a spiritual fear that I need to address each and every day.
I know this within myself and instead of sitting in the fear of not doing what I know to be true for me, I had to work up the commitment and courage to myself. I know I can commit! I just need to do it for myself and my body. I also want consistency, which is also a way of saying I need some structure. So it is the first thing that I do every morning. No matter how long it is, I will do it. Sometimes if I am going through a stressful situation that I know is coming up in my life, I know my pattern of letting go of doing yoga because it can cause me more stress and ADHD type symptoms. Part of the spiritual practice is to notice the stress that we are experiencing and asking for help, working through our emotions and changing our mindsets, beliefs and patterning. This takes time, it take, resilience and it takes connection to your spiritual source. With this connection we can experience learning, growth and a feeling of accomplishment, then we are good to ourselves.
This is when we can ground ourselves in our bodies, let go and trust God in our process and deepen our faith in ourselves, our connection all the while balancing ourselves through our daily lives.
The main ingredients that I have learned is compassion and courage. I definitely need an abundance of compassion for myself and how my mind and body cope through life’s seemingly simple challenges that are perhaps difficult for me. What I would say to this is ADD and ADHD are definitely healable, manageable and are best met with compassion. Compassion has been a very large component in my spiritual practice. It wasn’t until I was compassion with myself that I was able to be compassionate for others. Compassion gives us the ability to accept where we are at, what we are experiencing and taking the time to move through life. It allows us to take ourselves off the hook for seemingly simple things that sometimes are difficult to cope with.
When you look at our spiritual body, we carry many things within our systems. Ancestral, cultural, societal, community, gender, age, sexual identification are just some of the things that are working within our bodies. When we become energetically aware of our “make-up” and are able to let go of what is no longer serving us and replacing things that are helpful in our lives, that is when we make the difference for ourselves.
I can’t emphasize this enough….what we bring into our lives moment to moment of every day determines the “weight” at which we resonate. If you have ADD/ADHD tendencies, in my experience, our sensitivity is lower our input to balancing with our output. What do I mean by that? We need to move through our lives by letting go of somethings that perhaps aren’t helping you in your daily life and we need to commit to those things that help us in our lives, like yoga (for me), so that we can be more in balance.
ADD/ADHD can take us over if we feel victim to our circumstance and don’t take responsibility for ourselves. So to be empowered while having these symptoms, it helps to set up a consistent, committed, somewhat structured life and courageously follow it with the compassion that you need to let yourself off the hook when you haven’t done it as well as you “could” or “should” have. Let go of expectations, take it one step at a time, and give yourself compassion. Just know this will keep coming up until you do it. So knowing yourself, understanding your programs and patterns is a good way to get back up on the horse and try it again.
Incidentally, commitment, consistency and courage are all healthy masculine traits. If you haven’t established these healthy masculine traits within yourself, then this is your work. Learn how to commit to yourself at a deeper level. Be consistent with those things that are good for you. Ask for the courage to do these things and make yourself a better human being. You will thank yourself for it. You will love yourself for it. You will respect yourself for it. You will be a shining example of what it means to take responsibility for your actions and who you are in this world. Because we need more of that. Most of all I think it will help others understand “ADD/ADHD” and perhaps our sensitivity and what we need to work through every moment of our lives. It starts and ends with compassion.
If you are struggling with ADD/ADHD symptoms, come to land, connect with the horses and rewire your system to be more of the 3 C’s for yourself. You will thank yourself for it.
With courage,
Jackie