The Life of an Empath

I write this to admit to being an Empath. Boy have I hated being an Empath until now. It takes time to understand the gift of Empathy or Empathic abilities. It can be a complicated system of integral workings. In my experience Empathy is an understanding of the emotional and physical body. You have the ability to read how people are feeling even when they don’t know themselves. So if people aren’t congruent then we don’t trust and may have difficulty in relationships. Because what they say doesn’t match what they are feeling.

If we have had an upbringing that has been emotional shutting us down with ghosting or emotionally being invalidated, then you really need to work at accepting, owning and understanding your own emotions.

For me I shut down emotions so much that I had to ask for the full spectrum of emotions because I was having feelings that I didn’t even know or I could label or understand. When I asked for peace, I didn’t even know what peace felt like. When I felt it, it was so foreign to me that it took time to get comfortable with it. When you are in a trauma field, it takes time to remove yourself and get comfortable with yourself, form boundaries, and not take on other people’s stuff.

As for the physical body, it is highly sensitive. I have been told or read that Empaths have mirrors that can pick up other people’s emotions or energy. As for my experience, I could eat a chicken and feel the state that the chicken died in. It can be very dark.

So from the inside out Empaths are definitely different. They will be highly emotional until they understand that not all the emotions that they are feeling are their own. That they may be feeling many many things at once.

The sensitive body of an Empath needs tending to. It needs care, attention and clearing. For me, food, exercise, kindness, care and love for my body is essential to maintenance. That isn’t easy if you are bogged down with other people’s stuff. Don’t even get me started at what’s on TV. Why even watch it. It is such a dark depressing energy. I can do it if it’s the right program, but if at times you can feel what the people are going through on TV at the time of shooting, then it’s really time to get real with the truth of who you are and what you are capable of and how that serves yourself and others in a more positive way.

What I find is that when we admit, own and communicate our truths as we see it, it makes our lives easier to step into, even if the conversations need to be hard. We are the truth tellers, the truth seekers, the knowers of truth. We must first hold ourselves accountable and then we can hold others accountable. Only when we do our own inner work do we then understand the outside world.

Being an Empath isn’t something you can shut down either. I tried it!!!! What happens is you shut down your emotions and then you can’t feel anything. No joy, no laughter, no contentment, nothing. It’s like being bla. You really need to accept the emotions, who you are, how you feel and how to work through those emotions. It isn’t always easy but it gets easier as you get to know yourself more. And dare I say it, the more difficult situations you go through, the more you can read people, the better you get at it. If you make mistakes, that’s fine, it’s best to go in with loving kind intentions and recognize your triggers. Do you get them all the time? Nope. But that’s where forgiveness comes in. Forgive yourself and forgive others, there is no other way. Assume people are doing the best that they can and let go when they don’t do or say what you expect or want them to do. Use your boundaries and work through it.

To those Empaths that are shut down emotionally, I welcome you to connect with me and I can teach or guide you to your own healing and your own sovereignty. Just call on the grace of courage and faith and it will all be answered. That’s how I did it :)

Wishing you a healthy Empathic life.